有人會一輩子嫁不出去是有原因的

個性濫成那樣、混成那樣、可惡成那樣
包准再給她幾輩子都嫁不出去~~拉拉拉拉拉 ~~~

Happiness Comes Back?

My MP3 player revived to keep me company- Happy

Swiss visa sent+ airplane ticket booked, the way Home is nearer!!- Happy+Excited!

Work overload, helpless in the office with tones of work about NJ9's photographic contest final judgement the next day- Depressed

Similar as above, bothering Tax Education details on and on all over the nation- Depressed

The speech which stimulate deep thoughts
"My life belongs to no one else but me."
"Live everyday you have as the last day in your life, and do something to make whole of your life till then a unregretful experience."
"Just Go! Follow your heart!"
-Happy+Inspired

Postcard and gifts from BR(Pedro) and from SG(Philip)- Happy+Surprised!

Warm and professional experienced help from Mom- Happy+Grateful

After phone calls, still no one can come over for help tomorrow- Down

No progress on application......-Depressed

Give my sunshine back!

Desperately Need Nutrition

My heart is as dry as this flower-
Lost the fragrance for long,
Lost the sparkles for long,

Jeez.....give me back my energy and happiness!
Return my laughters and teers of joy!

Missing home terribly...

Taoban House陶板屋, Yammy!

Parents, their friends and I went to Taoban House last night. Their purpose was to seek advices from Mr. Yeh about certain PTA projects, as for me? Just go for yummy food! hahaha~

Nevertheless, I still learned a lot during their talks. Mr. and Mrs. Chuang are PTA members of WanXing Elementary School, where my mom is the principal. Mr. Yeh is the chairman of PTA of JenAi Elementary School. He gave quite some useful methods to raise funds amongst parents to install air conditioners for their kids. In short:

1. Do survey, and obey public wills
"Do you want your kid's classroom to install air conditioners?" Let the parent(s) and kid(s) make their decision on their business, and collect the anonymus results. When the "yes" exceed 1/2 or even 2/3 (it depends), the class is started to be concerned in the installation project, but not quite.

2. Your own donation benefits your own kid(s)
Collect money that is needed for the installation. The money amount could be rough, but exceed a little over the market standard. When the class collects enough amount, it is officially involved in the project. Otherwise, the air conditioner would still be flying in the air~

No survey results, Not much money = No air conditioner in this classroom = hot summer = your kids is always envious of the cool classroom next door

Also, the air conditioner "moves" with your class when needed.

• Original classroom A got one but the new B didn't-> take it there.
• New semester, brand new class members with new teacher-> your kids are guaranteed to be distributed into the classroom with air conditioner.
  

3. Public participation, Public decision
All classes that meet the above requirements are asked to send delegates to participate in the purchasing process- choosing the brand, asking for discounts, giving opinions on the dates which start the installation. Once things are decided, niether the school nor the PTA should be responsible for the results.

Also, group power can get group discout that you can hardly imagine :)

4. Do listen to opinions that against the propose, but never give in easily.
There's always someone who is "special." Take good care of them. Reason with them logically.
But the things that should be done should be done.

5. Discounts come from public praise.
Of course group power contributes, but remember to use potential public praise as the great weapon.

6. To know somebody or to know nobody, there's huge difference.
有關係就沒關係、沒關係就有關係
To be an influential person is great....Sigh....

I knew I divagated. But, these are yammy too, don't you think so?

夢中....

英國的C出現了。

長髮剪短了，恢復到我們認識時的那模樣，記憶中同樣神采飛揚、大男孩的形象又鮮明的展現，高高的、高高的坐在山坡上和旁邊的朋友談笑風生。

夢中的我是在弟弟的慫恿下才決定把回營地的行程還是擠進我的行事中，靜靜的欣賞他們兩人聊到一個段落，我才從坡底呼喚他："C!C!.....C!"

欣喜的，他奔下了山坡迎面就給我個熟悉的大擁抱，除了寒喧，兩個人更是一刻不得閒的嘰嘰喳喳彷彿要把全世界的話題都聊完，「我弟告訴過我你的瘋狂故事了！」他大笑，「你鼓吹他來還有這個目的吧？當你在瑞士免費的最佳眼線！」換我放聲大笑了：）

言談間，他很自然的說了幾句中文，我本來還不以為意，瞬間會意到的時候連忙追問他的中文怎麼那麼溜？「因為我愛上了個台灣女孩，沒辦法囉～」他的眼角很明顯遮掩不住那股幸福的香味，愈加迷人了！

忘了中間還發生過什麼事，醒來後我的心情甜得化不開，因為那非常沒有真實感的吻，過分動人....

是弟弟說了太多太多瑞士的故事？？
還是我不曾真的放下？？

Pinky Welcomes Pinky!!

Curt's Back! From our "hometown" Kandersteg International Scout Centre in Switzerland!
His plane arrived at the airport at noon, and Mom and I went to pick him up, I myself wearing Pink- staff T-shirt hoping that he would do the same thing. Just check the picture in the left!! HE IS 100% MY BROTHER :D



He for sure brought back lots of great stories and pictures, never to mention many lovely presents including conquests from "lost and found" stock, pure souvenirs, chocolates, chocolates, and chocolates....haha! And.....two hiking sticks were for Mom and Dad, a Swiss red purse for me(see below), a Swiss 3D map chocolate set for me, etc.

WELCOME HOME my dear Curt(or maybe I should call him "Ting" from now on?) And thanks for all the joy you've brought to me :)

Post Love from the World- ONLINE!

Cannot think of better way to preserve my postcards and the thoughts which was never recorded.
Maybe to open this blog may help!

Come and Enjoy- the Post Love from the World

Who is This?

worth a guess?

Composing Resume

is not easy, and needs devotion- especially when I have really nothing big to tell.....

Here's some good English Resume online references, use them properly!!
http://www.resumeedge.com/
http://esl.about.com/library/howto/htresume.htm
I've benefited from both of them, and found out, though ashamed, that what I had two years ago was so green and so lack of attraction. I guess the GradSchools got sufficient reason to reject me then- the girl who just graduated, had no professional experience, with horrible GRE score, and a naive resume....

Fight! Prove them my maturity!

Long Long Long Meeting

It wore me out.... Maybe one of the reasons why I felt tired so easy was- I was not really the key participants who needed to focus on what was going on at that critical moment, so that my eyes lost focus soon as well as my brain, and my forehead couldn't help kissing the meeting table...

Ah......time to bed. I gave in!

Postcard Collections!

Gradually, I'll have all my postcards scanned. They looked just marvelous and impressive!

E.g. The left hand side one was from Jean(TW) when she went for budget travel in Australia. "What did she write to you?" you may ask. Of course that part was secret- my privacy! However, I did scanned both sides of them in case one day I'll need the digital records. As my friends and audiences like you, anyways, will at least have the privilege to see the photo side. Hey! It is great enough, believe me- because the postcards may come from all around the globe!!

Going Out! Goint Out!

Fight!!!!!!!

Curt + Geneva = ?

Marvelous stories!!!!!!

Checking his blog let my family burst into joyful tears several times. We just cannot help it!
Further, because I've been there last year, all things he described somehow matched my experience and thoughts, proving that I'm not the only person who easily got lost in Geneva, who complained about the citizens' poor(?) English and the unfriendly French road sign, who thought our flower clock in Mt. Yang-Ming was surely better and prettier than that in British Garden-Geneva. Also, it's a plearsure to find out that my brother- just like me- fell in love with all the solemn churches everywhere- we just cannot help it!hahahahahahaha!

I guess I've done Swiss travel three times already. One with four family members when 12 in winter, another by myself wandering here and there last Autumn, the other mentally with my brother this summer. I should say- I'm really rich. It's not material side, but the spiritual aspect. Guess what? NO ONE can EVER take this rich away :)

My New Space in the Office

It's actually not New, because we've worked like this for almost a month. Since it's the first time I posted it here, and people were still surprised by its new appereance, let's still call it "New Space" then : )

What do I have in the office?The standard equipments include: a set of PC, speakers with bass, a headphones, a scanner, a telephone. What I brought here- which only I myself have them- includes: my mug from NTUMUN, my dolphin doll named "Gray Gray," my red kitty paper clay namecard holder, etc. And, I must put emphasis on my desktop: it's ALWAYS my lovely friends in KISC!! As for the screen saver, it's ALWAYS the sentence: It's not Rain. It's Liquid Sunshine!! -from Ex-Pinkies.

These components have made my working hours less unbearable......

My First Flower in the Office

brought by James Wang, but of course from someone else.

It was a pity that Jessie was no longer there with me, thus no one could really share my emotions in the first moment.

But, I dare not to appreciate my flower closely till one day later- today, after some truly touching sayings and promises. He's..... maybe not the best, but he showed his sincerety to solve problems, to face challenges, to bear my terrible(to him) decisions. Maybe, he deserve one more chance.

I accepted the flowers now. Although they're not my favorite callas, neither are they tulips, their fragrance is the best ever. : )

Great Cooking Diary in Alpes

from Lion Ting! hahahaha~~

Dear my lovely friends, if you can read Chinese, go enjoy his story! He and the other TW friend hand-made some dumplings to those westerners in KISC and got hit!! They've done everything by themselves from rolling the skin, mixing the pork and vegies, boiling them, and serving to people. I have never done those when I was there, because I'm not that skillful and I'm alone. Happy for them to conquer the westerners heart by conquering their stomach!!!

Jeez! My brother is so great!!!

【商周】打理人脈 就是打理細節

打理人脈　就是打理細節
本篇文章摘自：商業周刊第 979 期
作者：廖怡景

除了田玲玲名片匣裡的人，《華府名人錄》（右圖）上許多人都成了錢復夫婦的好友。
隨錢復駐美6年，每個月至少必須應付15場宴會，田玲玲認為，「記人」是經營人脈成功與否的關鍵，做全「小」事，則是在人脈圈子站穩的秘訣。

宴客，是一門學問。若問台灣最深諳宴客人脈之道的人，前監察院長錢復的夫人田玲玲應該無出其右者。錢復駐美六年，擔任外交工作相關工作超過三十年，贏得「外交才子」之稱，田玲玲則有「半個外交部長」的封號，任何的外交禮儀都難不倒她。自一九八三年和錢復一起赴美六年，舉辦上千個宴會。

當年田玲玲一到沒有邦交的美國，想的是如何能在最快的時間，和陌生人做朋友，累積人脈，被人看見。

法寶一：管理朋友名片　記錄背景資料不難，難的是貫徹

田玲玲的宴會人脈學，奠基於細節的管理，讓她在人脈扎下很深的根基。「打理人脈，等於是打理細節。注意的越細節，往往就會讓人越感貼心。」田玲玲輕聲細語的說道。

美國喬治皮巴迪師範學院圖書館管理研究所畢業的她，對於資料整理特別有一套，「剛到美國，為了擴展外交，每個月要認識的人上百個，不用點方法，怎麼記得住？」因此，田玲玲想起，如果，把所認識的人，當作圖書館的書，自己是「圖書管理員」，事情應該就可化繁為簡。

田玲玲靠名片匣打理個人背景資料的細節，環境的細節，她同樣是用圖書館管理資料的方式建檔。

往往，名片上還會重複疊上好幾張黃色的便利貼，田玲玲解釋，因為只要一有資料變動，如職務調動等，她都會加上去，「這樣，一旦有需要，隨時抽出一張名片，我就可以知道所有的細節，包括：何時認識？在什麼場合？朋友的生日是不是快到了？之前見面是什麼時候？當時送的是什麼禮物？」

田玲玲認為，其實記錄的工夫不難，真正難的地方是在「貫徹」。重要的是要有恆心，一有資料就要隨手補充到資料卡上。這些工夫都是在幫助自己記住交往過的朋友，「經營人脈成功與否的關鍵，就是『記人』。」

田玲玲認為，光靠名片可能還不夠，可以利用相片來幫助記憶，把名片上或是印象中的特徵和照片裡的臉孔比對，會記得更牢靠一些。

即使現在已不必要像在美國扮演外交官夫人時，把每個人的背景記得清清楚楚，但田玲玲還是不忘在認識每個朋友之後，做下紀錄，連看病的醫師也不例外，「這是李醫師一家人」，田玲玲在名片上，不僅記錄電話，連李醫師兩個小孩念復興小學都詳加記錄，「這樣，打電話到他家時，如果是女兒接的，我就可以親切的叫出名字。」

她認為，這是平時就在做的功課，也是之所以可以管理上千人脈的主要原因之一，即使錢復已不做外交使節二十多年，每年的耶誕節，他們收到的賀卡，兩人加起來有上千封，「很多當年因為工作認識結交的好朋友，都還有聯絡啊。」

她不但把每場賓客的名片建檔，連宴會的菜單，都做系統化的管理。

法寶二：賓客、菜單建檔　相隔二十年再辦，保證菜色不同

泛黃的活頁紙上面，田玲玲清楚的寫著「Feb.27,1988 Saturday十一桌」，裡頭一百三十二位賓客名單，她都記錄得很仔細。不僅如此，八道如去骨烤鴨、干燒大蝦等的菜名，她都寫得清清楚楚。

「所以，即使是現在要請二十年前請過的客人，我也可以讓他吃到完全不同的菜色。」田玲玲解釋，從名片上找出何時認識、宴請的時間是什麼時候，再去找出當日的菜單，一比對，就很清楚了。

在美國六年期間，平均每個月，田玲玲要舉辦十五到十七場大大小小的宴會。打理宴客名單、邀約賓客，她都一手包辦。

除了細節管理，她的另一項心得是「要累積人脈，當然不能怕被拒絕」。不僅如此，田玲玲認為，用自然的方式，建立起來的關係，效果才會好，等熟到可以直呼名字，就可以提出邀請，先留下自己的電話，再來順勢的問對方：「怎麼和你聯絡？」這麼一來，就可以進一步的取得對方的電話。

若遇到原來對自己不友善，但卻是很重要的對象，要如何能讓他參與宴會，築起友誼的橋樑呢？田玲玲不著痕跡的從邊緣包圍中央，先從她周邊的朋友，或是會出現的場合著手。

法寶三：邀約不怕被拒　先加入談話圈圈，慢慢化解敵意

「與其錢復丟臉不如我丟臉。」田玲玲認為要交朋友，累積人脈，要能沉得住氣，而且要有勇氣。當年，有一位參議員一直對台灣不太友善，田玲玲和錢復都是臉薄的人，但為了替先生解決難題，田玲玲還是決定勇往直前。

她利用一個參議員太太也會出席的午餐會，先若無其事的加入參議員太太的談話圈圈，聊起自己的孩子在教會學校念書，沒想到，參議員的小孩也在同一所學校，田玲玲抓住這個共同的話題，繼續下去，緊接著說兒子錢國維念哪一年級，「先分享自己的經驗，是獲取信賴的方式之一。」田玲玲的方式，果然奏效，兩個人的距離因此拉近了許多。

接連幾次，在不同場合碰面，彼此更為信任熟悉之後，田玲玲提出到家裡聚餐享用中國家常菜的邀請，並主動給家裡的聯絡電話，表示誠意，對方欣然答應了。

對於這點，錢復也不得不佩服田玲玲，在《優雅的智慧──田玲玲的生活錦囊》（天下文化出版）一書中，如此說道：「她比我更有勇氣，我是個非常膽小的人。駐美時，如果要請地位高的重要人士，我都不大願意打電話，因為怕被拒絕，她卻沒有一點怯意。」

與宴會搭配的另一個重要人脈利器則是禮物。「送禮能送到對方的心坎裡，當然也是讓人印象深刻，累積人脈的方法之一。」田玲玲笑說，從駐外到國內，送禮的經驗數也數不清，說穿了還是要做到「誠意」兩個字。

法寶四：送手製品禮物　不必貴重，「誠意」十足最打動人心

很多時候，田玲玲都是用「手製品」展現誠意。田玲玲回想當年，得知老布希喜歡中國美食，親手和廚師合作餛飩和春捲，再加上特別調製好的醬料，用精美的盒子以及緞帶包裝好之後，再附上食用說明，送給老布希夫婦，「他們對送的禮物，喜歡得不得了。他們夫妻還合寫了一張卡片，送給我們。」

田玲玲說，送的都不是很貴的禮物，但因為有十足的誠意，往往就能打動對方。這也奠定了他們和老布希夫婦的交情，一直到現在，老布希若在任何場合遇到我國的駐美代表，都還會記得問候一聲。

自一九八八年從美國回來至今，已近十八年了。田玲玲談起和錢復一起在美國打拚的點滴，如何辦宴會、幫錢復打理一切人際關係等事，像是昨天才發生的事，情景細節清清楚楚。

但她對於自己的生命著色，顏色卻很淡，談自己，總是不到五分鐘就跳開了，談當年幫錢復打點外交場合事務的事情則是侃侃而談。這位前外交官夫人「做全」了許多「小」事，才讓當年的錢復贏得前台許多外交的肯定。


田玲玲小檔案
出生：民國26年
學歷：政大西語系、美國田納西州喬治皮巴迪師範學院
經歷：中央銀行經濟研究處專員、主任


鋪人脈秘技：
1）加強記人的本事
2）重視細節
3）主動分享自己經驗，獲得信賴

【商周】你有解決問題的能力嗎?

你有解決問題的能力嗎？
本篇文章摘自：商業周刊第 926 期
作者：何飛鵬

如果有人問你：你有解決問題的能力嗎？相信沒有人會回答：沒有。我當然有解決問題的能力，否則我怎能在職場上工作？這是每一個人共同的答案。

可是我的答案稍有不同，每個人都有解決問題的能力，但真正處境艱難、造次顛沛之際，就不見得每一個人都有這種能力了。

根據我的經驗，一個真正具有解決問題能力的人，不論你把什麼事交給他，他大部分時候都能把事情辦成，不論這些事情有多困難！

而 這些困難的事，又可以分為幾個不同狀況：（一）看起來瘋狂，或者在大多數人的眼中，這根本是不可能的任務。（二）一般的任務，但要求的標準超高，超乎一般 的平均水準很多。（三）沒有足夠的權力，其他單位又不配合下，又要完成需要其他單位配合才能完成的事。（四）沒有前例可循，全新的任務。（五）難度不高， 但工作繁雜、分量極大、無趣又艱苦的工作。 以上這幾項如果你都能處理，才是真正有解決問題能力的人。

第一種狀況是夢想家的能力，有想像力、不怕事、不自我設限，遇到不可能的任務，就當做是挑戰，全力以赴，瀟灑走一回。還是有相當的比例能完成，就算不能完成，自己在過程中，也得到全新的經驗。

第二種狀況，是自我要求很高的人的能力。雖然一般人的水準做不到，但「We are the best」，所以我們做得到。這種人絕對不會告訴你，別的單位如何，別人只能做到什麼程度，因此長官你的要求不合理。

第 三種狀況，是辦公室最常見的狀況，你的任務需要許多單位配合，但他們又忙於原有工作，或本位主義很高，不願配合。處理這種狀況需溝通協調的手腕再加上毅 力，想盡各種方法，在沒有上層權力支持下完成、解決。遇到這種狀況，大多數人會兩手一攤，我又不能命令別人，別人不配合，我當然無法完成，再不然就求助長 官，要長官下命令。問題是，長官就是因為有困難，才會讓你處在左右為難的情境，他指望的就是你能用「智慧」解決，用權力是無法解決的。

第四種狀況是沒路找到路的能力，這種人常具有冒險精神、勇於嘗試，對新鮮事物具有探索及找到方法的能力。

第五種狀況，也是組織常見的情形，通常是苦力型工作，多數人不願做，因此日積月累，最後變成辦公室的死角，是人人避之唯恐不及的事。處理這種事，用的是決心、毅力、耐性與務實，這是「阿信」的能力。

有這五種能力，才是真正有解決問題能力的人。問題是大多數人不是這種人，是常人。而能解決問題的人是稀有動物。辦公室多的是有知識、懂道理，但只會動嘴巴，發言盈庭，但不能解決問題的人。想一想，你是哪一種人？
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我說，我看完這篇文章之後發現自己深深需要反省。
（一）那種的話，我大概只有辦去年的親子營的時候最符合敘述，做了大家眼中覺得不可能的瘋狂事。不過我的瘋勁還不足，需要對-每一件事-都有這種瘋勁才可以!!
（二）那種我稍微及格一點，被我折磨過的人都知道....
（三）我很差.....或許我做事情還是有點太依賴團隊吧...要加油要加油!!!獨立一點!!!!
（四）這種事我常做!雖然三不五時也還是會把事情搞砸，可是舉例來說：大學社團網頁、童軍總會網頁、租稅教育全年度活動辦法、總會部落格申請辦法、電子郵件信箱管理辦法....各個做，各個大小錯誤不斷，可是唉呦....都在學嘛XD
（五）我可以做!可是持久力需要加強、耐力還是不夠....

你們勒？
這篇小小的文章真的還頗棒的喔! :)